6 Phrases Spouses Use When They Are Untrustworthy, According to Psychology

On October 31, 2024By Karl

You may first feel it inside you, something is wrong in the relationship. You’re having a hard time figuring out what exactly is happening, but the problem is elusive. You should be able to trust him completely, without question, but the feeling of uneasiness persists after you try to communicate about the problem you cannot fully identify. He then says a vague statement that subtly betrays your trust.

Here are 6 sentences women use when they cannot be trusted:

1. “I’m fine” and/or “No problem.”

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These words are often a sign that things are not going well. Beneath your wife’s calm exterior is a pot of boiling water about to boil. John Gottman’s work suggests On conflict engagement, escalation, and avoidance in marital interaction.

— Jennifer HargraveOwner and Managing Attorney, Hargrave Family Law

2. “You’re the only one who thinks this.”

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When a woman wants to isolate herself When she shifts her partner’s perspective as a way to invalidate their concerns, she will tell them: “You’re the only one thinking this.” Using this phrase may cause the other person to question whether it is wrong to hold a certain point of view.

Using this phrase is an example of emotional manipulation. Psychotherapist Dr. According to Marni FeuermanThe best way to avoid being emotionally manipulated is to improve your emotional intelligence. Feuerman defined emotional intelligence as “the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome obstacles, and eliminate conflict.”

He further explained: “Emotional intelligence involves awareness of your emotions and noticing what others are feeling.” While emotional intelligence can be used to harm people, a strong understanding of your emotions can serve as a protective force against toxic relationships. suggested by a study Journal of Personality and Individual Differences.

— Alexandra BloggerWriter

3. “I don’t have time”

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They went away and they are closed off or unwilling to discuss marital problems as they arise. A. to study Marriage and Family Magazine supports if soIf you suddenly aren’t around as much as you were in the past, trust will erode, especially during difficult moments or activities you’ve always shared.

— C. Mellie SmithWriter

4. “I still have it”

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Insecurity and seeing others It goes hand in hand with being a threat. The worst behavior I’ve ever seen came from people those who do not trust themselves – and that includes going against people who want to help them.

Think about it. A. to study Journal of Family Psychology explains A frighteningly large percentage of people cheat because they want to feel good about themselves or because they know they’re “still figuring it out.” This is insecurity. If they were confident in what they were doing, it wouldn’t be such a big deal.

Insecurity creates incentives that cause a person to betray others and push others down in a desperate attempt to feel good about themselves. The more insecure they are, the stronger the urge to put other people down.

— Ossiana TepfenhartWriter

5. “Why would I do this?”

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Answer a question There’s a big red flag with a question that indicates the possibility of cheating. Honest people deny outright.

They usually respond, “I didn’t do that.” According to Frank KardesDeceptive people are evasive and need extra time to think of a convincing response when caught off guard. “Why would I do this?” An answer like. It buys the deceiver valuable time to formulate such a response. The key to detecting infidelity is to listen carefully to what someone tells you.

— Jack Schafer, Ph.D.Behavior Analyst

6. “I don’t talk about it”

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There’s always a reason Someone avoids a situation, a topic, or a person. There may be many reasons for this; One of them is to lie. For example, if you ask someone where they are and they don’t want to tell you but don’t want to lie either, the next best option is to avoid. Supported by published research Frontiers in Systems Neuroscience. This also manifests as a change of subject.

You should be careful about this. Before the issue, there are reasons why people should avoid cheating. I avoid talking politics with my family, not because I lie. I want to avoid conflict.

— Joshua Mason Author and Public Safety Leader

If the emotional presence in a relationship does not make itself felt and the communication does not seem to be on point, it is time to pay careful attention to everything. Uncertainty begins to feel more like deception when there is an underlying issue of distrust or betrayal.

Listen to how he talks to you, if subtle signs of avoidance are present, it’s time to dive deeper into what’s preventing him from expressing his feelings honestly.

Will Curtis is a creator, editor, and activist who has spent the last decade working remotely.